San DIego wedding officiant Rev. Rebecca Armstrong shares a personalized segment of a wedding in this short video.



San DIego wedding officiant Rev. Rebecca Armstrong shares a personalized segment of a wedding in this short video.

In this video, Rev. Rebecca leads a couple through a graceful memory walk of how they were drawn to each other by the power of love. This is just one of many ideas that you can incorporate into your own ceremony. Take a look at the blog posts for more ideas! ~ Welcome





Rev. Rebecca Armstrong; photo by Hilda Burke

Welcome! My name is Rev. Rebecca Armstrong and I am an interfaith minister in San Diego offering wedding and counseling services. I'm glad you stopped in to find out more! Please feel free to give me a call if your questions are not all answered in these pages.

Most of my clients describe themselves as "spiritual but not religious," and are seeking a way to express themselves in their wedding ceremony in new language and images that will do justice to the depth and importance of the love they feel for one another. Honoring beloved traditions while creating something entirely personal is the only path possible for those entering the adventure of marriage in the twenty-first century, and my ministry is to support you on that journey!

I work with every couple to create, from the depths of your own hearts and minds, the perfect ceremony that expresses your core values and your highest aspirations. Only with this kind of depth preparation will your ceremony truly become the lasting fountain of inspiration that it is meant to be.

My deep and abiding interest in the role of STORY and RITUAL in human life has made me keenly aware of how important it is to build upon the specific words and images that inhabit the personal imagination. Simply borrowing other people's ideas about what a wedding is or should be does not give the grounding for a satisfying ceremony.

Among my many inspirations is the great mythologist, Joseph Campbell, (The Power of Myth) who I was fortunate to know as a friend of the family. (see below) From 1990 until 2004 I worked as the International OutReach Director for the Joseph Campbell Foundation leading seminars around the world on the importance of myth and ritual in contemporary life. 

Rebecca in her teens with family friend, Joseph Campbell.

Rebecca in her teens with family friend, Joseph Campbell.

In addition to my early exposure to comparative mythology through Joseph Campbell, and my family's involvement with Celtic and American folk traditions, I became deeply involved with the global interfaith movement. Beginning in 1993 I started volunteering with the Parliament for the World's Religions and have been an active participant in these international gatherings for over 20 years.

Inspired by the vision of the 1993 World Parliament I co-founded an interfaith group with Brian Muldoon called "Friends of Compassion" which attracted participants from a wide variety of backgrounds. In 2001 we went on pilgrimage to India where we did some work in Dharamsala, creating a project that linked the Tibetan monks with a small rural village where we helped build a community center. We were privileged to meet with His Holiness the Dalai Lama on that trip. The Dalai Lama's vision of kindness and mutual respect as a basis for inter-religious discussion has played a large role in my interfaith ministry.

Rebecca in India with His Holiness the Dalai Lama

Rebecca in India with His Holiness the Dalai Lama

I graduated from the University of Chicago Divinity School in 1991, from Meadville-Lombard Unitarian Seminary n 1995 and received my doctorate from The Chicago Theological Seminary in 2004.  I am certified by the American Humanist Association to officiate weddings in all fifty states and have joined over 800 couples since 1992. I am also a certified mediator and a longtime member of Spiritual Directors International.

Please feel free to get in touch for a complimentary phone conversation about how I might serve you.




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Frequently Asked Questions 

Personalized ceremonies

Every couple with whom I work gets a completely personalized ceremony. I don't do "cookie-cutter" weddings where the officiant just sticks your names into a script and nods at you when it's time to say "I do." My respect for the immense importance of the wedding ceremony will not allow me to do that.

Even if you are doing an elopement ceremony with less than a week to plan, I'd love to meet with you and hear your story and find the right words and images to make your wedding a meaningful and memorable experience.

I want to honor who you are and what this relationship means to you and the unfolding of your life story. I take my ministry very seriously and want to be a good companion to you both during the days leading up to this immensely important event in your lives and for all the years that follow.

All of my work with couples can be done in person or by phone, depending on your location. I've worked long-distance and even internationally when one member of the couple was deployed or working overseas. If you are living in southern California I will try to find a way to meet with you in person.


I understand that all couples have unique needs, visions, timelines and access to resources. If you would like to work with me but don't see a "pre-packaged" set of services that meets your needs, please feel free to ask. I am friendly and flexible!


Preferred Wedding Package

This package is an excellent choice if you are on a more restricted budget but want all the core services for a beautiful, personalized wedding. It includes the initial call, the long Brainstorming Session, the back-and-forth emails and any phone calls along the way. It includes a walk-through on the day of the ceremony one hour before the scheduled service - which is useful for musicians, photographers, relatives and the wedding party - so everything is in short-term memory! It covers the officiating of the ceremony and the paperwork afterwards.

$500 plus travel - Depending upon my schedule I may be available for a formal rehearsal for an additional fee of $250 plus travel. 

Silver Wedding Package

This package includes a formal rehearsal in addition to the initial 30-minute introductory session, the long brainstorming session, the ceremony creation, all communications leading up to the ceremony, preparing and sharing the ceremony script with the other wedding vendors that you specify (usually the wedding planner, the musicians of DJ, and sometimes the photographer), officiating the ceremony, and doing the paperwork afterwards. 

$750 plus travel

Gold Wedding Package

This package offers you everything you might need or want to be completely supported in your journey towards your wedding. It includes the initial call, the long Brainstorming Session and all the back-and-forth emails or calls as we shape the ceremony script, and a final meeting in the weeks just prior to the wedding.  It also includes pre-marital counseling - either using the Prepare-Enrich format, or the soul-based counseling I offer. It includes a formal rehearsal and full collaboration with your other wedding professionals. Of course, it includes my officiating the ceremony and doing the paperwork afterwards. If you'd like me to offer a blessing or grace at the rehearsal dinner or the reception, I'm happy to do so.

$1000 plus travel (and accommodations where required) 


This offer is exclusively for couples who want a quiet, private ceremony without the fuss. Sometimes it is just the two of you; sometimes there are a few family members or close friends to serve as witnesses. (I consider anything un-catered and with up to twenty guests to qualify as an elopement.) I give the same care to the creation of the elopement ceremony as I do for any other wedding, so the package includes our Brainstorming Session. No formal rehearsal is necessary; I arrive 30 minutes before the scheduled time to have a final walkthrough before officiating the ceremony. 

$350 plus travel  - [Special Offer: If either one of you is in active military duty I offer $100 off the elopement fee.]

Ceremony Creation

There have been several occasions where a couple has requested that I collaborate with them on the creation of the ceremony even when I will not be officiating it. This happened once with a couple in Canada (where I am not authorized to officiate) and with couples who had a family member who was a member of the clergy and had offered to do the ceremony for them. They were able to work with me on the ceremony script, crafting a rich, deeply personal ritual, which they then handed over to the person who was officiating.



Finding someone to speak with about the deep longings, pain, and aspirations of the heart and soul can be challenging. This art of soul-companioning is one I hold as a treasured and sacred task. If you are facing issues surrounding your upcoming wedding, or have issues that appear to be standing in the way of a happy marriage, I am ready and able to assist you.

My three graduate degrees in ministry and religion all included courses and practicums in various forms of pastoral counseling. I have been a member of Spiritual Directors International for many years and have been trained and certified in a variety of counseling skill-sets during my 25 years of ministry. 

$75 per session (by phone or in person)   Please click this link to learn more about Counseling and Spiritual Guidance.

What's Next?

If you are interested in booking me to be your wedding minister, to work with me on the creation of your ceremony, or to come in for pre-marital counseling or other spiritual or relationship guidance, please contact me so we can set up a time to talk by phone and get answered any other questions that you may have.



A Wedding Story: The Legend of the Red Thread

If you would like to explore other kinds of rituals and special elements to add a personal touch to your wedding ceremony, just click through to my blog posts where i describe dozens of different traditions - like the legend of the red thread - for you to consider.