Sometimes, when lovers meet for the first time, there is a shared sense of destiny; a sense that one is remembering, rather than meeting this new person. This is the sense that is called “soulmates” in the West. In the East it is the tradition of The Red Thread.
When a marriage also creates a new family, a couple may wish to include their children in the wedding ceremony. There are a variety of ways of giving voice and creating a visual image of the new blended family, and here are some of my favorites.
We know why marriage matters -- whether it is the federal government reminding us that marriages make stronger a nation, or the AMA telling us that being married correlates with longer life, better health and faster recovery from illness, or just our own hearts whispering fiercely that THIS person makes our world go ‘round and life worth living – we know that marriage matters. But, does a wedding matter?
The Guests' Blessing of the Rings is a very simple and yet very powerful way to let your family and guests know how much you value them and their influence in your lives. To have the guests bless the rings gives them a meaningful way to participate at a depth level with your ceremony.
A few months ago I had a dream which gave me new insights into the wisdom of a relationship as it matures. In this dream I was in the Twin Cities for a renewal of vows ceremony with K and T, a couple whom I've known for decades.
Working in the wedding industry I feel a special call to steer couples towards wedding and engagement rings that do not rely on violence, pillage and unethical practices to bring the sparkly baubles to your finger. Fortunately, there are many options to "go green" when it comes to the symbol of the ring.
Being true to your political and spiritual allegiance should not be neglected when designing your own wedding. In fact, it's the perfect place to make your statement. Here at the start of your new life together you can lay the foundations for making "green" the keynote of your new lifestyle.
MARRIAGE is a FORM that is constructed collectively and individually to be a container for many things: sexual satisfaction, procreation, raising children, easing loneliness, owning and bequeathing property, running businesses, creating dual-units for the social system, maintaining tribal loyalties, passing down genetic and moral codes, etc. It also is the container for subtler forms of energy like: affection, imagination, memory, fear, faith, shared experience, projection, joy, disappointment, hope, anger, transformation, compassion, impatience, yearning, bliss, etc. At any given time, one or more of these may be in ascendancy or may seem to have vanished altogether.
The ancient Greeks, from whom we borrow so much of our culture, used a variety of words to distinguish the different aspects of this complicated emotion of "love." We moderns have been greatly handicapped by losing these critical distinctions, as our convoluted and frustrating conversations about the topic reveal. Here are the basic differences in the five types of love as defined by the Greek philosophers: Storge, Philia, Eros, Agape and Xenia.