Legend of the Red Thread


Sometimes, when lovers meet for the first time, there is a shared sense of destiny; a sense that one is remembering, rather than meeting this new person. This is the sense that is called “soulmates” in the West. In the East it is the tradition of The Red Thread. The sages say:

"An invisible red thread connects those who are destined to meet, regardless of time, place, or circumstance. The thread may stretch or tangle, but never break." Some versions of the tradition insist that only when the individual has made “the right choices” in life that the heart turns and thus winds the thread so that the meeting with the beloved takes place. Making this image visual can add a delightful dimension to this ritual!

The minister winds one end of a red ribbon around the hand of each partner, as they stand apart from each other. They slowly walk towards each other winding the thread around their hand until they are brought face-to-face. As they walk, they may take turns naming the “right choices” they made that brought them to their meeting with their mate.

Alternatively, the minister can be the spokesperson for them and tell the story of their meeting with the highlights of their earlier lives. This can be serious or alternate the humorous with the sublime; “Then he took that horrible job in Toledo which he hated, but that’s when he met Joe who introduced him to woman who would be his wife!”

[Note: This ritual is the one featured in this video clip.]