Renewal of Vows

Good relationships never stop evolving. Like fine wine, they just get better with age.

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Renewing Your Vows 

Mature love is so different from the early blush of infatuation and enthusiasm. It has weathered storms and strife and allowed you to learn to navigate with wisdom and patience and a growing compassion for each other's foibles as well as fabulousness. Now you really know each other, and to say "I Do" all over again shows just how far you have come on the journey of love!

It is so meaningful to remember what brought you together and celebrate the fact that you have. Saying your original vows again, or writing new ones to reflect your new appreciation for what you are to each other.

I'd love to work with you to create a very special event in which you can renew your love, and - if celebrating with friends and family - share that inspiration with others.


 

Suggested Readings for a Renewal of Vows

You are two who, by your patience, persistence, and promises, have arrived at that magical moment called the (insert years of marriage here! 10th, 25th, 50th, etc.) Anniversary. This is a mountain top that most of us dream of arriving at when we are young and full of hope. We know how few actually reach this pinnacle, and so it is wonderful to acknowledge and celebrate those who do get there. Today we celebrate as you begin the next marvelous chapter in the book called LOVE!

When two people come together to remember the years of their union, it is right and good to give thanks to those whose love and support made their progress possible; those still with us and those who have gone before. Today we honor departed parents and grandparents, friends, mentors, and all whose love and support will be cherished forever.

What greater thing is there for two human souls than to feel that they are joined together, to strengthen each other in all labor, to minister to each other in all sorrow,
to share with each other in all gladness, to be one with each other in all the silent, unspoken memories of life.

- George Eliot

 

It takes years to marry completely two hearts, even the most loving and well assorted. A happy wedlock is a falling in love. Young persons think love belongs to the brow-haired and crimson cheeked. So it does for its beginning. But the golden marriage is part of love which the bridal day knows nothing of.... Such a large and sweet fruit is marriage that is needs a long summer to ripen, and then a long winter to mellow and season it.

—Theodore Parker from Marriage Joins Two People

 

Marriage offers opportunities for sharing growth
that no other human relationship can equal. 
It is an emotional and physical joining that is promised for a lifetime. 
Within the circle of love, 
marriage encompasses all of life’s most important relationships. 
A wife and husband are each others best friend, 
confidant, lover, teacher, listener and critic.
Marriage deepens and enriches every facet of life. 
Happiness is fuller; memories are fresher; 
even anger is felt more intensely, and passes away more quickly. 
Marriage understands and forgives, 
the mistakes that life is unavoidable to avoid. 
It encourages and nurtures new life, new experiences
and new ways of expressing your love through the seasons. 
When two people pledge to love and care for each other in marriage, 
they create a spirit unique to themselves, 
which binds them closer than any spoken or written words. 
Marriage is a promise and potential, 
made in the hearts of two people who are in love, 
that takes a lifetime to fulfill.

— Edmund O’Neil    from I Carry Your Heart With Me

 

I could open the doors and the windows
to great winds
Let everything be scattered,
like loose sheets of paper
Let tumbling take sense and proportion
from what we have put in order.
That suits us,
but it would not change anything.
You have come in,
and your entrance has been final.
You do not leave me,
nor do I leave you, beloved.
We have made this house our place,
And our shelter.
When we go out, 
we will go out together.

—Ted Enslin

 

A Renewal of Vows ceremony is usually less formal than the original wedding, but often more emotionally moving. Your union has now been tested and proved worthy and the sharing with friends and family will be even more powerful for that. You may wish to re-state the vows from the wedding, and/or write some new ones based on what you now know of love and marriage, and what you now wish to claim for your unfolding future together.